"Few people can appreciate the strong, direct connection that a man's self image has to do with his job and his ability to succeed in that job. Sadly, I have found myself associating my value with what I do, rather than who I am in Jesus Christ. Emotional needs continue to follow us, and sometimes we listen to the world rather than the Word. 

Our experience shows that the man usually starts the job before the family moves. The loneliness and isolation caused by distance in miles and emotion, added to the fears associated with a new job, new co-workers, new city, and maybe even a new company, can shake our very value and identity. 

Some men have asked themselves questions like:
Did I make the right decision by taking this job?
Am I capable of doing this job?
Do my co-workers like me, will I fit in?
Am I doing what's best for my family?
What does my new boss expect from me?

For the most part, men may not know how to recognize or deal with these feelings. Since we usually 'act out' rather than 'sound out' our feelings, (we may get quiet under stress rather than interact) we may be more than just physically absent during a move - we are most likely emotionally absent too!  

With all these fears going on inside of us we may not be ourselves. With the stress of a new job, many times we are not available to help you make family decisions, keep the kids stable, arrange for movers, tie up loose ends, say farewell to friends or other tasks associated with moving. Please give us grace during this time.

Our greatest need is for you to cheer us on as we struggle with our fears, our self-doubt and all of our earthly battles. We need your encouragement as we enter the arena of moving. We need to know you believe in us by saying, Yes, you do have what it takes! Yes, you did make the right decision! Yes, we will be a family again!"