How you can be their cheerleader
When I am in the presence of dedicated military spouses, I am humbled by their sacrifice and commitment. They touch my heart, strengthen my faith, and keep me humble. They are ordinary women who are called to do extraordinary things as wives and moms.
It was a privilege to be in their midst at the recent Gather Conference in Colorado Springs, to speak into their lives with God’s hope and encouragement, listen to the cry of their hearts, give lots of hugs, and cheer them on with my pom-poms. Once again I saw women from all walks of life, regardless of their circumstances, thrive on the hope and peace that only comes from knowing and trusting Jesus Christ.
These precious women are in the trenches of military life, many of whom are holding their families together in the absence of their deployed husbands. They face the unknown with brave hearts and a strong faith. Many have just moved to a duty station and are experiencing the adjustment and transition of being in unfamiliar surroundings and starting all over again. Some are anticipating the all too familiar challenges of yet another move. They, too, face the unknown with a persevering heart and a strong faith.
Here are some observations I made from my time spent with military spouses. These are gentle reminders for all of us:
- It is important for a woman’s emotional well-being to be in fellowship with others and to bear one another’s joy and sorrow.
- Laughter is good for the soul.
- The word of God continues to impact lives like nothing else can.
- It is vital for a woman to be listened to and to be heard as she shares her story.
- Joining hands and praying for one another has a soothing effect on an anxious heart.
- There is nothing quite like the unity of voices coming together in praise and worship to stir your emotions.
- When a woman is focused on Christ and not her circumstances, attitude and perspective can change.
Many military women have become my friends over the years and I have become their cheerleader. You can do the same thing. When you meet a military spouse or active duty member, be her cheerleader and encourage her. These are some suggestions you might consider:
- While a greeting and a smile are always appreciated, don’t let it stop there. Invite her to lunch, coffee, or some activity.
- Don’t wait for her to ask or come to you. Knock on her door, talk to her at the mailbox, invite her over when she is out in the yard.
- Provide her with a list of local services: a handyman, mechanic, hairstylist, babysitters, churches, restaurants, etc.
- Offer to drive her to functions, places, or events. She doesn’t know her way around, and that would encourage her to go.
- Express your support. She appreciates hearing and reading your encouragement.
- On special occasions or holidays at school or church, honor the dads or moms who are deployed. This means so much to their children.
- Invest time in her and her children.
- Be inclusive, not exclusive.
- And, when you pray for the men and women who are serving our country in the Armed Forces, remember to pray for the spouses and families left behind. They, too, are our heroes!