Every month we bring you the personal and encouraging story of someone who has been uprooted by a move or other life change.
Healing tears of grief can strengthen roots in Christ
by Martha Shatraw
It FELT like our four-year-old and 11-month-old granddaughters were being "ripped out" of our hands and hearts. (Of course, that was not the case, but it sure felt like it, with such a final goodbye. Our daughter and her husband are very loving, considerate parents. This was just our feeling of loss, as if something we didn't want to let go of was being torn away.)
Our eyes filled with tears and we waved goodbye as our granddaughters and their parents pulled out of the driveway and embarked on the journey to their new home many hours away. We waved until their car disappeared from view, then climbed into our car and sobbed all the way home.
Many grandparents have had long-distance relationships since the day their grandbabies were born. My husband and I, on the other hand, had had these two grandchildren near us since each one was born and we’d been there all the days, months, and years leading up to this moment.
We feel pain now – grief, hollow, empty, and a bit lost. My pen slowly writes the word "lost," as if there is shame in it.
"You ought to just buck up and move on," we hear the enemy taunt.
Our beautiful reality is that we spent so much time with our grandgirls and our daughter and son-in-law over the years. They were a major part of our week, our lives:
Tuesdays together all day.
"Can I stop over, Mom?”
Church together on Sundays.
"Can I borrow...?"
Donuts and coffee on Saturday.
The list goes on.
We were always there for one another. No wonder this "loss" is sweeping over us!
Sit with it.
Don't push it away.
Getting a clearer perspective, allowing our mind to guide our emotions, we talk to ourselves …
We have loved SO WELL. Our daughter and her family know, understand, and rest in our love for them. They can bank on it 100%. This reality is secure in their hearts, minds, souls, and spirits. This gave the strength to move on. And, without a single doubt, Jesus is the Source of all THEY did to make this move, AND He is the Source of all WE did, are doing, and will do. He is the One "going ahead of [us].... There [we] will see Him, just as he told [us]” (Mark 16:7).
We will be taught by The Master how to do this major transition and, as much as possible, be close and active parents and grandparents. He will renew our hearts! He will pour His grace upon us! We will walk hand-in-hand with each other by faith! We will continue to grow in our marriage and God’s plan for us. Jesus will be glorified!