Initiate Connection in Your New Neighborhood

Don’t wait for the neighbors to reach out

Excerpt from But Mom, I Don’t Want to Move! By Susan Miller

We live in neighborhoods of isolation – with walls and fences around our yards, and garages that we open, drive into, and then shut without even getting out of the car. Our backyards, rather than front yards, have become our family gathering places. With so many two-income families, there is hardly anyone left on the street during the day to notice a moving van coming or going. But do not lose heart! Neighbors are there, and like you, would probably love to meet and greet others. But you just might have to be the initiator. These suggestions could help you meet other moms with kids and help connect kids to kids:

• Be proactive. Don’t wait to be asked; have a “come on over” attitude. Create an invitation on the computer or make a flyer to distribute around the neighborhood inviting moms and kids to a get-acquainted party. Be creative.
• Open up the garage, carport, or driveway area for a monthly (or weekly), totally casual Saturday morning coffee-and-donuts drop in. Moms, dads, kids – everyone is invited. Soon, word of mouth will make your yard the place to be for a visit!
• Be bold for your kids. Step out of your yard and step up to a neighbor’s door. A playmate could be a knock away.
• Look for clues in the neighborhood that indicate children live there – bikes, toys, playground equipment, and baby strollers. Don’t forget the biggest clue, a large vehicle like a van
• Walk your younger kids to the school bus stop in the neighborhood.
• Take a walk down the street and around the corner on a Saturday. People are more likely to be out in their yards then. Always speak and introduce yourself as the new neighbor; don’t miss the personal contact opportunity.
• Borrow an egg – or anything that will give you the chance to meet a neighbor.
• Set up a lemonade stand in your yard or driveway. Kids have a way of attracting other kids while doing fun things.
• Look for a playground area nearby.